Dear People-Pleasing: You’re Fired. Sincerely, My Business
It’s Been a While...
It’s been a while since I’ve written a blog, but I’m feeling called to share this with you.
I’ve come to realise that I’ve lived much of my life as a chronic people-pleaser. While writing my book Chronically Awesome, I had the eye-opening realisation that I was even people-pleasing in my business.
I already knew I was doing things like rearranging my schedule to suit clients, working on days I promised myself I wouldn’t, staying later than planned, and even creating new services just because people said they wanted them (spoiler alert: no one signed up).
I bent over backwards to make everyone happy. I told myself it was necessary to run a successful business. Spoiler alert #2: that’s complete bullshit.
What Writing My Book Taught Me
Writing my book uncovered something I hadn’t been conscious of before: I was running my business to gain my dad’s approval. This wasn’t a deliberate choice, but it was playing out subconsciously. The way I structured my business and the results I achieved (or didn’t) were because it wasn’t aligned with me.
Living in Limbo
Since publishing my book, I’ve found myself in a bit of a limbo, trying to rediscover my true self and realign my business with my purpose. It’s not easy to strip everything back and ask yourself: What do I actually want? How do I envision my business in the future?
In this process of self-discovery, I started asking myself about the things I’ve always wanted to do but never felt brave enough to pursue—things I avoided because I feared judgment or rejection. And then I decided to take the “fuck it” approach.
Now, whenever I catch myself making excuses, I have a little chat with myself and say, “Fuck it.”
What’s come out of this? Well, for starters, I got my nose pierced and dyed my hair purple (yes, PURPLE!). I’ve also left my part-time job, which was draining far too much of my mental capacity and causing me unnecessary stress. Each month that goes by, I feel more at peace with myself and my decisions.
My Actual Purpose
Looking back at my business journey, I’ve realised what truly lights me up: teaching. I love sharing my knowledge, especially when it comes to blending spirituality with healing the mind and body. Moving forward, I’m making it my mission to fully embrace and implement this passion.
I’ve also realised how much I value connecting with others in person—building a community where like-minded people can come together, share their experiences, and feel less alone. With that in mind, I’m thrilled to share that I’ll be hosting a weekend retreat next year! This retreat will offer a space to laugh, find peace, and connect with others who truly “get” you.
Of course, I’ll continue with my intuitive readings—because if you know me, you know I love a good reading. (Let’s be real, the cards never lie!) I’ll also be offering one-off healing sessions, instead of my healing package, as much of my energy will be going into creating and recording courses.
In Closing...
This isn’t just a business overhaul—it’s a me-overhaul. I’m stepping into alignment with what I love and letting go of what doesn’t serve me anymore. If this resonates with you, keep your eyes peeled for updates about my courses, retreats, and more.
Here’s to ditching people-pleasing and building something that feels authentically mine.
Much Love
Katie x
